How do you know if your husband is cheating on you? There are telltale signs that are more obvious than others, and there are more subtle signs that require you to do some digging. Once you know what to look for, it will be easier to uncover the truth and decide whether or not you want to stay in the marriage if he’s been unfaithful.
Here are eight subtle signs your husband is cheating on you:
1) Take Note Of Where He Goes
If your husband goes places he’s never been before or spends a lot of time away from home, you should take note. According to experts, it’s extremely common for people to cheat when they feel like their current relationship isn’t meeting their needs—even if they love their partner.
If your husband finds that another woman makes him happier than you do, it might be time to consider moving on. In addition to where he goes, also pay attention to how your husband behaves when he’s with you. Are there any behaviors that seem like cheating behavior?
For example, does he ignore you, or has his physical affection decreased lately? If so, that might be a red flag—especially if he always did things like hold your hand or kiss you goodbye in public before.
2) Search His Phone History
If you’re serious about catching your man in a lie, you need to get hands-on with his phone. The first step: search through his call history to see if he’s been talking to someone he shouldn’t be. If a guy’s cheating, there will be one or two numbers that pop up more than usual.
Make note of these phone numbers and follow up with a Google search—that’s how we caught ours!
Now that you know how to catch a cheater, it’s time to put your new skills into practice. Start by searching his phone history for evidence that he’s talking to another woman behind your back.
If he hasn’t deleted his browsing history or installed an app blocker, then now is your chance to get hands-on with your guy’s phone and root out any suspicious behavior. Use caller ID and Google search to discover more about these numbers he calls regularly. The next step?
3) Watch His Social Media Activity
Make a habit of checking your husband’s social media activity (Facebook, Twitter, etc.) to see if he’s in contact with anyone you don’t know. If you see him engaging with girls or sending suggestive messages or posting suggestive photos, that could be a sign that something suspicious is going on.
Online behavior can often provide valuable insight into what happens when two people are alone. When you look at his social media, it’s easy to read too much into things. If he has a photo with another girl and there are lots of comments from others, it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s cheating.
4) Change His Routine
Change his routine. Men tend to fall into a pattern, but one of these days something as simple as buying milk could send his mind racing with thoughts of cheating. If you make it a habit to look for signs, you’ll notice changes in your husband’s routine quicker than usual and catch him red-handed. For example, instead of driving to work every day at 5:30 am, he starts showing up around 6:00 am.
It’s easy to overlook minor details that could mean your husband is cheating, but if you change his routine and get used to keeping an eye out for these subtle signs of infidelity, it’ll be easier to spot when he’s being sneaky.
For example, most men with a 9-5 job end up eating lunch at their desk or grabbing food from fast-food chains close to work. One day he gets a bit more adventurous and decides to walk over to that diner two blocks away.
5) Observe How He Interacts With Women In Public
Do you notice your husband or partner acts differently with women in public? For example, does he touch them a lot more than normal (or than he does with you)? Does he get easily jealous if another man pays attention to his wife? Does he act more formally around them, even if it’s someone that you know that he interacts with regularly outside of a professional setting?
It could be because they might be flirting with him. If you notice that your husband or partner seems to be overly polite and formal with other women, it could be because he’s trying to mask his true feelings. But what are his true feelings?
He might actually like them a lot more than he lets on. Observe how your spouse interacts with women in public, both young and old, single and married.
6) Give Him The Benefit Of The Doubt When Warranted
There are two ways of going about it: the first would be to always presume your husband is faithful, while the second involves dealing with any doubts by confronting him.
The first strategy makes it much less likely that you’ll ever find out the truth (because there won’t be anything to find out); however, if you fall into the second camp, it will make things easier when and if he finally confesses.
If you’re not sure which way to go, err on giving him the benefit of the doubt. Don’t forget that in most cases, your husband will be horrified at any suggestion that he may have cheated and will do everything possible to clear his name.
7) Pay Attention To All Communication Channels
Communication channels can include texts, emails, and calls; but also all in-person communication such as meeting your husband at a bar or a friend’s house, etc. Many cheaters don’t stray while they are out of town on business trips or conferences. Pay attention to all communication channels to help spot potential issues early on.
When you first notice a change in communication style, ask questions. Asking open-ended questions or ones that require details are great ways to get information. But be careful not to pry into his personal life too much – no one likes a snooping spouse!
8) Be Patient, This Won’t Happen Overnight!
It’s one thing to learn how to spot a cheating husband and another thing entirely to let go of your marriage in light of this information. If you suspect your husband may be cheating, try to remain patient. This isn’t something that happens overnight, so try not to jump to conclusions.
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Instead, be diligent in your observations and set up more opportunities for yourself to spend time with him. If he starts blowing off plans or stops caring about your relationship, then you’ll know something is wrong!
Now that you know what to look for in a cheating husband, it’s time to learn how to recover from his betrayal. These next few steps will help you let go of your marriage so you can begin moving forward with your life. Be patient, though; if he’s only just started cheating on you, it could take some time for him to leave.